Love Tip: Good Relationships Start With Open Communication
Monday, 23 November 2009 09:04 | 
Written by Lily St. Thomas |
Being able to communicate openly is the key to a lasting and happy relationship. But in so many cases it is difficult or even impossible to persuade a man to talk about their feelings, fears and needs. For women this seems very easy to do but men are a different story. If you have this problem and are unable to get the information you need from your partner, it's possible you need to try some new ideas.
Being able to communicate openly is the key to a lasting and happy relationship. But in so many cases it is difficult or even impossible to persuade a man to talk about their feelings, fears and needs. For women this seems very easy to do but men are a different story. If you have this problem and are unable to get the information you need from your partner, it's possible you need to try some new ideas.
When is most responsive?
Men can sometimes feel like they are under pressure and close down so it's important to approach them when they are relaxed and responsive. Try to see when this happens look to add any inquiries you might have into an existing conversation. Make it look natural and don't press it.
Pick the right time
You don't want to blow a chance just because you lost your patience. Be sensitive to when it is a good time to talk and be careful not to approach when your partner is tired or preoccupied.
Inspire him to be like you
If you are able to talk about topics that are very personal to you, it will help your partner see that it's not that bad and perhaps inspire him to act in a similar fashion. Share with him your private desires and fears and soon enough he is likely to share his with you.
Always look ahead
It's important that you don't keep bringing on past events when you talk about your own feelings. Talk more about how you've changed and how the past is behind you. Men love to move forward and don't enjoy revisiting old topics that they thought were already behind you.
Don't criticize his ideas
If your man is finally opening up, allow him to say whatever he feels. If he's got what you'd call a "wacky idea," try to avoid picking it apart. A lot of people, especially men, have "big dreams" that they probably know are just that: dreams...like learning how to fly or living in another country. In reality, there's no harm in dreaming.
Be there to receive
Now that he's talking, just listen. Don't turn on the television or answer a phone call when he is opening up. Instead of interrupting or interjecting, give him a chance to put things in his own words. It can be hard to keep your mouth shut, sometimes. But being a good listener speaks volumes.
We all have similar challenges and are here to support each other. Good luck!
Being able to communicate openly is the key to a lasting and happy relationship. But in so many cases it is difficult or even impossible to persuade a man to talk about their feelings, fears and needs. For women this seems very easy to do but men are a different story. If you have this problem and are unable to get the information you need from your partner, it's possible you need to try some new ideas.
When is most responsive?
Men can sometimes feel like they are under pressure and close down so it's important to approach them when they are relaxed and responsive. Try to see when this happens look to add any inquiries you might have into an existing conversation. Make it look natural and don't press it.
Pick the right time
You don't want to blow a chance just because you lost your patience. Be sensitive to when it is a good time to talk and be careful not to approach when your partner is tired or preoccupied.
Inspire him to be like you
If you are able to talk about topics that are very personal to you, it will help your partner see that it's not that bad and perhaps inspire him to act in a similar fashion. Share with him your private desires and fears and soon enough he is likely to share his with you.
Always look ahead
It's important that you don't keep bringing on past events when you talk about your own feelings. Talk more about how you've changed and how the past is behind you. Men love to move forward and don't enjoy revisiting old topics that they thought were already behind you.
Don't criticize his ideas
If your man is finally opening up, allow him to say whatever he feels. If he's got what you'd call a "wacky idea," try to avoid picking it apart. A lot of people, especially men, have "big dreams" that they probably know are just that: dreams...like learning how to fly or living in another country. In reality, there's no harm in dreaming.
Be there to receive
Now that he's talking, just listen. Don't turn on the television or answer a phone call when he is opening up. Instead of interrupting or interjecting, give him a chance to put things in his own words. It can be hard to keep your mouth shut, sometimes. But being a good listener speaks volumes.
We all have similar challenges and are here to support each other. Good luck!
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Author Lily St. Thomas provides expert love advice in her weekly newsletter on psychic reading mega site Asknow.com. Find your psychics today only on Asknow.com